It can not only spice up your marriage, it SHOULDN'T change your relationship at all, depending on the REASON you're having one. Read When Good People Have Affairs by Mira Kirshenbaum and start scratchin' that seven year itch, fulfilling the midlife crisis, upgrading to a newer model, etc., then analyze it to know thyself. AOL should continue to teach men to never learn to communicate or be willing to work out differences with the women they are committed to, because ENLIGHTENED men are above that. Teach women we are serving a good, common cause when we help someone through a trying marriage through cheating with us. Why don't we all just accept infidelity as being NORMAL like in other societies? It's useful, and therefore it can't be all bad. Hey, maybe good and bad are one and the same. Perhaps the author needs to justify affairs for her own reasons, but it doesn't make it OK to try to twist our society into a self-centered and callous one where anyone can cheat to get what one wants and not feel the least bit guilty IF IT IS USEFUL. Hello, Brave New World, the death of morality. New World Order (everyone put in their proper place starting with men first) aka global socialism is near, and we can start euthanizing people (old people, less developed groups of people, the mentally ill, perhaps women who cry for equal pay but can't carry more than one brick into a wheelbarrow the way a man can carry two) who aren't seen as useful to society, too. It may be time for me to unsubscribe from AOL if they're endorsing such a book--and survival of the fittest (anti-love, "might-makes-right", anti-woman!!) philosophy aka Natural Law--under AOL Health. Who cares how cheating makes people feel if it's reasonable? God, help us.