"New York City taxpayers send billions of dollars upstate for unnecessary shopping malls, transportation projects and prisons, giving new meaning to the phrase “welfare state.” Meanwhile, vital upgrades to transportation and public services essential to accommodate the expanding New York City area are deferred." Read more: Can New York Be Saved? - The New York Times Op-Ed contributors March 27, 2010
'Mars disarmed by Venus and the Graces' Nineteenth century oil, by Jacques-Louis David (Image from elore.com)
Maybe this post will shed some light on the matter of Venus vs Mars, maybe not. I'm responding to posts I've read regarding some misconceptions about why women don't like being told they are beautiful. That's not true in my case; I think it's nice when someone has the courage to let me know how they feel about me. But I figured out what I don't like is the staring down that some guys do. Part of it is cultural and based on my own set of values, but it's also explainable in more or less scientific terms. Sure, liking boobies is a biological response - I'll go with that. But being fixated on body parts is, to me, borderline autistic behavior; surely a little socialization (including such things as picking up cues and developing empathy for others) wouldn't hurt if you're searching for the difference between women being comfortable or creeped out around you. It creeps me out to be treated like parts, and to be seen and judged for those parts. And if you think the guy's looks make a difference, I would react to the most good-looking guy the same way. So, next time you wanna tell me I look great, tell me to my face, not my body. And please keep your thoughts on specific parts to yourself. I enjoy living in polite society because it makes me feel safe, and that means I can go out more. Consider, too, that some girls become so tormented by the objectification to the point of going anorexic, to keep their bodies from developing. It's not as easy as telling women and girls to just relax; so much of what we don't understand about women is biological as well.
I'm wearing a discontinued Escada limited edition summer offering redolent of sweet, fresh berries and flowers called Un Été En Provence (1994). If you want to know what it's like, try the new Ed Hardy Hearts and Daggers, to my nose a candied strawberry shortcake-type of scent. The Ed Hardy is heavier and peach/mango-y (comparable to D&G The One). The Escada is jammy sweet but airier, freshened up by apple and melon like Creed Spring Flower. Happy Spring! ♥
The author wants us to know that boys will be boys and father knows best. Love, sex and the male brain by Louann Brizendine, Special to CNN March 24, 2010
Re: "Hand over the baby" - Nice try, but not so fast. I'm all for dads taking care of and bonding with baby, but in my world, moms don't take commands. You see, this is why I'm part of the modern day exodus of Japanese women, because I understand what a patriarchal society is. It's one in which paternity rights trump maternity, where women are seen as dangerous (spiritually corrupt) and in need of extra discipline (only the female needs to sit in painful seiza style, a modified lotus position, in everyday life; likewise, only females are expected to speak in extra respectful language designed just for them), and mothers are taught not to "damage" the children with too much affection lest they turn them into "victim types", depriving bonding and intimacy between mother and child for no good reason.
This article is about as scientific as the one about baby formula being better for babies than breastmilk, or how cheating or learning to shut up and yield will solve all problems and save your marriage. We might as well teach again that left-handedness is evil, or how women are irrational. Is Health Care Reform going to fix this soon?
One more thing: Please don't let this author make you believe girls / women like being ogled at by men. We don't. It scares us. That's why we cross the street.
Lucky by Jackie Collins is an '80s paperback romance novel I once picked up at a drugstore. I don't remember the whole story, but in it appear perfume classics Joy (known as "the costliest perfume in the world") and Wild Musk (from the humble drugstore division, a particularly raunchy number). Some insist on keeping the status quo, while those rare ones, like heroine Lucky Santangelo, fly in the face of tradition that says only men can be Casanovas. The '80s were a definitive time in herstory when free women took control of their own sex life; "lady in the living room and a whore in bed" was the slogan to rile against or live by.
"British bestselling novelist, now living in California, the younger sister of the actress Joan Collins. Her stories about lust, love, power, and violence in Hollywood have gained wide success. Part of the fun of her books is their not-so-well hidden references to well-known celebrities, hot shots, and juicy events reported in such magazines as National Enquirer." Jackie Collins by Petri Liukkonen (author) & Ari Pesonen. Kuusankosken kaupunginkirjasto 2008
The abortion debate is heated because it's connected to how people are feeling about demographics in this country (some white people are afraid they'll become extinct), and also to the equally irrational global fear of Muslims outnumbering Christians, thereby making Christianity extinct. So, the madness boils down to controlling women's bodies for population control.
Real Republicans...Real cigarettes...real beef, real Christ, real femininity, real Men's Pocky from Japan.
Pocky is a popular brand of chocolate-covered pretzel sticks. The dark chocolate flavor is what makes it marketable as being manly enough for a man. Dark = real = masculine. No mama's milk in these babies. Get it?
(This box says it's all new "with more bitterness of flavor (sensation)".)
François Payard, chef and owner of François Chocolate Bar in New York, is organizing the first annual Macaron Day in NYC on Saturday, March 20, 2010. Macaron Day NYC is inspired by and will coincide with the 5th annual Jour du Macaron in Paris, organized by Pierre Hermé. Join us on Saturday, March 20 to discover macarons in New York as bakeries across the city come together to provide free macarons to customers.
To receive a free macaron tell the shop you are there for Macaron Day NYC. Visit macarondaynyc.com
Here's more from the great Dr. Temple Grandin. From You Tube: Tune in for this unusual presentation on autism by someone with autism. Animal Science professor Temple Grandin, who designs livestock handling facilities, discusses the workings of the mind of a visual thinker like herself. She discusses how she uses concrete visual metaphors — including a nonverbal video library of particular people, places and associations — to make sense of the world around her.
Architectural déjà vu print: urban development. New York artist Jordan Carlyle digitally deconstructs his skyline view to blueprint an urban utopia using repetition, intensity and color. Photographic images on stretched canvas. Artist signature on front, bio on back. www.cb2.com
Jazz album cover art: Sonny Rollins Blue Note 1958 Vol.2
"The term Ides comes from the earliest Roman calendar, which is said to have been devised by Romulus, the mythical founder of Rome. Whether it was Romulus or not, the inventor of this calendar had a penchant for complexity. The Roman calendar organized its months around three days, each of which served as a reference point for counting the other days..." The Ides of March - Just one of a dozen Ides that occur every month of the year - by Borgna Brunner
"The Hermetic comes from the old-Egyptian apprenticeship of the Hermes Trismegistos. Hermes Trismegistos (Greek for "Hermes the thrice-greatest") is the syncretism of the Greek god Hermes and the Egyptian Thoth..."Everything is Dual; everything has poles; everything has its pair of opposites; like and unlike are the same; opposites are identical in nature, but different in degree; extremes meet; all truths are but half-truths; all paradoxes may be reconciled." -- The Kybalion." Ursi's Eso Garden