So Much To Come
According to the stats reported by this article, INFJs in Love - Oddly Developed - The website for normal and healthy people, people with the Guardian (SJ) temperament (ESTJ, ISTJ, ESFJ, ISFJ) have the highest satisfaction in relationships with people of the same temperament. However, I would like to see the study broken down to how happy each type is with people of their own specific Myers-Briggs personality type (ISTJ + ISTJ). Of course, I could be wrong to assume that the Identity relationship is even less stressful than the Pal (ENFJ + INFJ) and the Pedagogue (ENTP + INFJ) and maybe as attractive as the Anima (opposites) (ESTP + INFJ). Even with initial attraction, perhaps familiarity also breeds contempt over time, making Identity relationships nonetheless challenging. I will still present a theory that the type that understands your mode of communication is the easiest to get along with (not taking into account characters of the people involved, good or bad, and assuming people are most attracted to people they get along with).
It's also interesting that most Rationals (NT) are happier with Idealists (NF) than their own types.
"Do opposites attract? Not always! Tieger and Baron-Tieger (2000) found that Idealist-Idealist pairings have an average satisfaction rate of 73%--the highest attraction rating for all the NF pairings, and almost the highest possible satisfaction for all pairings.
Idealists were 73% satisfied with Idealists.
Idealists were 64% satisfied with Rationals.
Idealists were 51% satisfied with Artisans.
Idealists were 46% satisfied with Guardians.
"But satisfaction between the temperaments was not equal. Seen from a reverse perspective, here is how Idealists are viewed by the other temperaments.
Idealists were most satisfied with Idealists (73%)
Rationals were second most satisfied with Idealists (65%)
Guardians were third most satisfied with Idealists (58%)
Artisans were fourth most satisfied with Idealists (54%)
"A further note, the Rationals had a higher satisfaction with an NF mate than with any other temperament. Isn’t this a fascinating mess of information? Let’s put it into context...
SJ x SJ 79%
NF x NF 73%
SP x NT 73%
SJ x SP 71%
NT x NF 65%
NF x NT 64%
SP x SJ 63%
SJ x NT 62%
SP x SP 59%
NT x NT 59%
SJ x NF 58%
NT x SP 54%
SP x NF 54%
NT x SJ 52%
NF x SP 51%
NF x SJ 46%
"Now, it is a mistake to generalize by temperament--it’s frequent that types will go counter-temperament, and temperament is not the definitive factor in explaining type-based behavior most of the time (CITE)--but since we don’t have anything better to go on... So just remember: These observations are generalizations that may or may not apply to all Idealist types."
What does it all mean? I got that there's roughly a 50-50% chance or better, sometimes worse, of there being truth to the MBTI relationship theory, kind of like the chances of actual relationships of any type or temperament actually making it.
Last edited: June 6, 2013 11:54 PM